Thankyou for the chuckle James!

Milarepa wrote:Some say i'm opinionated, extreme. What do you think?

You just tell me what you want me to think.
- whatever you say is OK with me, you're the one in control

"Managing the situation when confronted by an assailant using a sidearm as intimidation:
RULE no. 1
Do not do, or appear to do, anything likely to aggravate the situation or give the assailant cause to escalate their level of aggression"
["Street-wise Protection" course (© 'Jay' & Ezri Deacon)]

Did you both teach self protection courses James? Are you still teaching?

Milarepa wrote:Did you both teach self protection courses James? Are you still teaching?

Yes we did, for about 16 or 18 months, but that was a long time ago (1995-6).

hiya Ben! How ya been? lemme get on skype a sec..

I'm about to go downstairs to crack a bottle of bubbly stuff for my granny, it's her 76th birthday anniversary today. So will be back on in a while. I'm good, thanks. hope you're well yourself. If ur still about in an hour you can catch me on skype!

i'll try to be on mate, got some geo-politic vids to watch! Have a great time with fam though! If not tonight, lets hook up tomorrow?

ok cool mate, will try get on for an hr or two in the early afternoon before fam comes.. (will be too busy after)....
Need to talk about Ireland too. so if I dont catch you online tomorrow, I'll give ya a buzz within the next two days.

best wishes,

Ben

(it was my Granma's 77th btw....not 76th... (dunno how I managed to get that wrong.. (must be old age )

Rlei_ki wrote:

Milarepa wrote:Did you both teach self protection courses James? Are you still teaching?

Yes we did, for about 16 or 18 months, but that was a long time ago (1995-6).

Wayne,

I feel I should point out that the course we ran was probably far less 'physical' that the training you provide.

This was primarily due to the fact that most of the individuals our course was aimed at would have needed a couple of years basic training in order to achieve a level where they could effectively physically interact with a serious assailant (who would quite likely have a considerable level of aggressive fighting experience).

And as you know, an unsuccessful attempt at taking control of a threat situation can often result in a far worse outcome. (Though stats would seem to suggest that in certain cases of attempted rape, women who offer firm resistance may actually be successful in deterring the would-be rapist – though not necessarily escape with out some injury.)

While we did provide a degree of 'fight back' training, the primary emphasis of the course, as the name suggests, was on being 'street wise' – about proactive personal safety:
on not presenting as an easy target; on confidence building; assertiveness training; strategies to avoid or at least limit and defuse confrontation.

A big focus was on awareness, observation; risk/threat assessment; preventative measures. Taking common sense precautions; reading body language – and using your own body language to overtly express a 'disarming attitude'.

Though we did also run a few, shall we say, more intense workshops for a small number of carefully vetted participants...

Rlei_ki wrote:
And as you know, an unsuccessful attempt at taking control of a threat situation can often result in a far worse outcome. (Though stats would seem to suggest that in certain cases of attempted rape, women who offer firm resistance may actually be successful in deterring the would-be rapist – though not necessarily escape with out some injury.)

For sure James, once a person decides on an action, they gotta commit 100%. When i was reseearching material for our anti-rape courses i came across Sarah Ullman, assistant professor from the University of Illinois at Chicago, and her work. She's of the view that violence in an attack (rape attempt) tends to be at the start of the event (i assume to control the victim). Women who fought back, didn't recieve any more intense, or prolonged violence.

I feel, that to fight back there & then can do three things. It may give that split second window of opportunity in which to escape. And (this may be negligable once the attack starts) it presents the victim as a harder target. Thirdly, it may greatly aid the person in their recovery post-attack, re: post traumatic stress.

Rlei_ki wrote:
While we did provide a degree of 'fight back' training, the primary emphasis of the course, as the name suggests, was on being 'street wise' – about proactive personal safety:
on not presenting as an easy target; on confidence building; assertiveness training; strategies to avoid or at least limit and defuse confrontation.

A big focus was on awareness, observation; risk/threat assessment; preventative measures. Taking common sense precautions; reading body language – and using your own body language to overtly express a 'disarming attitude'.

Not only is this the foundation of self defence, it's the most effective. Be it civilians, or even security operatives in CPO work.

warmest wishes
Wayne

BTW Wayne,

I know the word "Reiki" appears in the speech bubble I added to your pic, but as its not really a Reiki topic per se I thought one of the ever vigilant admin team might have moved it by now to the "Chillout Section" - or are they just following the advice in "RULE no: 1"

I know mate, i was intending to edit it. I'm caught up in creating our anti-terrorism course. And in a couple of weeks will be forming a basic CPO taster course (prob 25 hours, not SIA in itself), so i've been so busy. Oh, and i had to go for a walk that fine day with family, hehe.

As for the rest, Colin's in Italy i think. Not sure where the others are. We kinda tend not to moderate others chats much. Artistic rights maybe, hehe. It's kinda down to me, and i should know better. Particularly when i'm chatting with you!

did'nt i say somewhere you were very important for the forum? .

Milarepa wrote:did'nt i say somewhere you were very important for the forum? .

I think the term you might have used was "pain in the a.."

not for the forum. In private emails, maybe once or twice. Though i think you've a few phrases of your own to fit me! hehe!