Can't go into details, but how would you go about this? say, someone who was abused as a child, but is now an adult? further say this issue is causing them issues in their adult life, because this person never got any therapy?
/discuss

My partner, Bayardo, was sexually abused between the ages of 12-16, and it only stopped because his mother moved out of their original country and took him, and his younger brother of two years, with her.

I help by listening when he needs to talk about it, and I never initiate or instigate the conversation of it because it's not me who needs healing through that circumstance, but him... and that healing doesn't take place during the course of one Reiki treatment, but rather many.

I let him do the talking when he's ready, and all the while I listen and provide Reiki. Sometimes it's hands-on, other times it's distance Reiki.

Absolutely. It's important to listen as
with any deep emotional issues. I would
never say I understand,or make a comment
that would imply pity.

agreed that listening is really important-from a practitioner's POV, any specific techniques or hand positions you guys think are best when working on such a person?

wildcarde wrote:agreed that listening is really important-from a practitioner's POV, any specific techniques or hand positions you guys think are best when working on such a person?

I always ask/tell all my clients if
at any time you feel uncomfortable
let me know & we can stop at any time.
Allow them to feel in control of the
session. When working on the root
chakra area you might feel more
comfortable placing your hands on the
outer hip area. It's important that you
also feel comfortable when facilitating
a session.

It's also important to let that person address the issue by themselves. For example in some cases you my not even know that the person has been a victim of sexual abuse. But you might reach that conclusion on your own, through ur intuition.... it's important in such cases not to force the person to talk about what it is that is troubling them... maybe they already have someone else for talking to about it and prefer to keep it to a minimum. Make sure the person is comfortable with your hand-positions... basically use your intuitiveness. If the person expresses a wish to talk about it then listen, and offer compassion. These people are often very fragile inside even if they have a hard shell, so be extra careful. In general I would say if it's a female to seek a female practitioner, or suggest one to her, on the other hand it could be therapeutic for her to be treated by a man, to build up a sort of trust to the opposite sex again. Just be very sensitive, choose your words wisely and be compassionate.

Namaste

i m treating a young girl aged 16 these days through distant sessions... she had emotional turmoil due to early separation of her parents and then sorta abandoning her in their new lives...


without trying to know the cause and reason i ask her what affirmations she wants, how she wants to be, and how she wants to change her feelings about unfortunate experiences of her life... once she confirms me the affirmations, i try to embed them to her sub conscious throguh seiheki chiyoro ho.... she is showing imporovement...

once she is bit balanced and normalized, i intend to iniate her to level one so that she can self-treat herself



as Bridget said, in such cases as you sought discussions about, it is best not to 'touch' the core of the issue yourself... over sympathy proves sometimes posionous even... deep traumatic ailments of human mind are like volcanic erruptions... when the mind's volcano bursts, we find nothing but ash, heat, dust and rubble coming out... and it is only after some time that real 'lava' happens to come out......

practitioner's role, especially when it is a reiki practitioner who is not licensed to deal with mind matters, it is best to 'play passive' in the session.....

reiki sure heals the emotional traumas but it is very subtle in working.. you cannot expect it would bring an overninght relief...... also there is an obsrvation that when emotional matters start coming to resolution, body expells something in form of intestinal problems, acne, itch, allergies.... and this makes the whole thing very interesting to study academically as well...

best regards

salman

I like your approach Salman! thanks for sharing!

salman as compassionate as we
find ourselves you are right.

It is important that we do not
try to wear more than one hat.
Our role as a Reiki practitioner
is not to make judgments,diagnose
or attempt to dabble in mind
matters when we do not have a
license to do so.

true, it's easy to feel compassion, especially if the person is someone close to u, you might even feel anger and hurt yourself. So the key is to stay mindful..

LuvSoulJah wrote:true, it's easy to feel compassion, especially if the person is someone close to u, you might even feel anger and hurt yourself. So the key is to stay mindful..

when we are close to the problem at
hand, it can get tricky if we have
not been practicing mindfulness. The
closer we are to the person who needs
help it might be best to find a neutral
person to step in.

every situation is unique, and one cant really weigh one against the other. If someone for example has chosen you to be thier confidant, then you have to be prepared to carry that burdan. You can advise group therapies or other forms of therapy... and help them on their path to recovery... I guess we all react in a different way to different situations too. As I am not a professional practitioner the legal boundaries dont apply to me, I still have my morals though. Practicing mindfulness is hard in a situation like that... when I hear stuff like that, it does tend to touch me deeply... and I need some time to process it myself... Before I give any advice or guidance...

great advice all. thanks so much

Just found this topic - an important one to consider. I'm wondering if we had a previous thread on this as well.

Good thoughts here, everyone encapsulates the key principles well. As a survivor of abuse myself, I've spent a lot of healing time on it. Reiki was key in giving me the strength and awareness to discover the early memories, and then to begin the healing work.

That reinforces the point, that your intuition may suggest someone was abused, but your client may not be aware of it consciously. It's a shock no matter what, when that memory surfaces, however it's mostly not our place to blurt it out. I was treated well and ethically, by so many intuitive friends who could pretty well guess what was lurking in my past, but they refrained from telling me their suspicions, trusting that my own natural healing path would bring it up when the time was right. And it did.

aronaya wrote:Just found this topic - an important one to consider. I'm wondering if we had a previous thread on this as well.

Good thoughts here, everyone encapsulates the key principles well. As a survivor of abuse myself, I've spent a lot of healing time on it. Reiki was key in giving me the strength and awareness to discover the early memories, and then to begin the healing work.

I had a client who was in therapy
to deal with healing from sexual
abuse. I believe the therapist
suggested Reiki as a part of the
healing process.

That reinforces the point, that your intuition may suggest someone was abused, but your client may not be aware of it consciously. It's a shock no matter what, when that memory surfaces, however it's mostly not our place to blurt it out. I was treated well and ethically, by so many intuitive friends who could pretty well guess what was lurking in my past, but they refrained from telling me their suspicions, trusting that my own natural healing path would bring it up when the time was right. And it did.

It helps to know what to say/not say
to a sexual abused survivor. Listening
without pity helps them break the secret.